You don’t need a partner to be happy. You don’t need anyone really. We want people to make us happy. We want people to love. We want people in our lives, but we don’t need people. At least, most of us don’t need people.
We have this weird thing in society where everyone HAS to get married, to have children, to have a partner, but the truth is you don’t have to have any of that if you don’t want it.
You don’t need to get married to be happy or have children. You don’t need to have children to have a fulfilled life. You don’t need to have a partner to have a full life.
You, by yourself, are enough.
I think because society has put that pressure on us to have to have somebody in our life, we are afraid to just be with ourselves alone. I don’t think people today spend enough alone time with themselves. Being alone does not mean just locking yourself in your home. Being alone can be as simple as grocery shopping by yourself, getting your nails done alone, hair done alone, watching a movie alone, or eating out alone. If being alone like that is weird for you, maybe that means something more.
The truth is, we don’t need humans to be happy. It’s not fair to put all that dependence of happiness onto one person. How you become happy is up to you. Believe me when I say this is all easier said than done.
What I have learned that is most important (to me) is to make sure you have your own back and to be your own best friend. At the end of the day, nobody is obligated to stay in your life, not even your family. So when everybody leaves and does their own thing, you will always be left with yourself.
To some people, being left by themselves is scary, but have you ever thought about why that is scary to you? Why are you terrified to be kind to yourself? Why are you scared to have a meal by yourself and treat yourself? Why are you scared of being alone?
I’m not saying you should spend all the time in the world alone, of course not. What I am saying is there should be a balance between your relationships with people and the relationship with yourself.
For some people, they can’t stand being alone with themselves because they are left with their feelings and problems, but I encourage you to embrace those feelings and openly think about your problems. Your problems and feelings may not be as bad as you think.
A partner may bring some content feelings, but make sure you bring yourself content feelings as well.
You are enough.